OK guys and gals, 
I understand there is a problem, and I am working with our provider to get them fixed.  The main problem that is causing all this slowness and pages not being able to load is a resource problem on the servers of the host.  
I apologize for all the inconvenience, but all I can do at this point in time is continue to push on the provider.  They reset our sql and the problems seemed to have gone away, now they are back, which tells me that something on their servers is not releasing the resources when they should and they just keep getting chewed up.  
Perhaps it is time to start thinking about a new provider.  The main reason for choosing this provider is all the features, bandwidth, mail storage, and disk space that the service comes with, for a low cost.  I have not found another provider that meets these prices.  I guess you get what you pay for.   

   I guess after Westmeath we'll need to look around some more. 
Again, sorry, but we're working on it. 
Thanks,